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Question: I am considering Homeschooling?

My son just started kindergarten at a Public school on August 16th. Everyday but one, I have been told by his teacher that she's had problems with him. And this morning a little girls mom came up to me and said he daughter told her that my son spit in her face!!! I cann't handle being told everyday that my son is bad. He's been a defiant child for about the past four years. I have tried everything I can think of. He was in therapy but, that was going no where and fixing nothing! I am seriously considering taking him out of that school. and Homeschooling him. My sister in law thinks that he needs school for the social part...but I am planning to sign him up for soccer as well as Boy Scouts! I did home school him for like 6 months but I got further along with my 2nd pregnancy and was just too tired to do it! But, I am ready to do it...any laws or tips for the State of Kansas on Homeschooling will be extremely helpful!!!

Answer: mom, i could understand if the problem was the other children,

but he is the one having the social problems

in order for him to behave properly you need to
1. stop the therapy
2. surround him by children who behave well, and are tolerant

children learn by example,FACT

When he is at home, Have him Watch Sprout TV its for toddlers BUT its going to benefit him

Reason being he needs to be reprogrammed
and for children who have social problems, TV is the easiest way to show them proper examples, it relaxes them and helps child learn how to properly respond to situations.

Now as far as the spitting goes, boys can do things like this,
its frustration and fear

he isn't able to communicate, so he reacts
fear is the part when he realizes that the other child CAN communicate

I will be honest with you, you'll get many bits of advice but MINE will work for you and your child.

My son had ADHD he seems to be growing out of it.
But in any event he was not human until he turned 4 years old

I don't believe in the medications because the Chemically alter your CHilds Brain.

( not totally against it either in certain situations)

I am sure you have heard that Autism is now the NEW ADHD
and it is,

Beware that you don't label your child, make him feel as normal as possible

And like i said As far as taking him out of the school , this make Zero sense it will only delay him further in devoping social skills

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I know its hard to be embarrassed by your childs behavior and most folk blame the parent

But i am telling you, try it my way and you will see improvement , and don't be surprised if he complains he is watching baby shows.

You and him and the new babyb sit there and watch the shows

Repeat when your supposed to to show him how to respond properly

jump when they ssay jump ect..

Your showing him how to conform.follow rules, ect..

Read him stories and teach him to color INSIDE the lines

and very important, no violent shows or games.

he should hep you make dinner and have jobs around the house, like take out the garbage and load up the dishwasher

you might be thinking he is too young for this BUT he isn't
you will find this will at first be protested but eventually he will do it without complaint ( much complaints)

and praise when he attempts to follow through
praise when he is successful
and most important discouragment if he refuses(this is an import factor many parents leave out these days)

its not ok for them to do as they please, and you need to SHOW him you are disappointed, not hitting, or psyco behavior but a good old fashioned yell at violent behaior

if he is used to you yelling then 360 and quitely admonish and send him to his room

- One more thing a punish ment should never punish the parent. so if he doesn't mind then make him clean the house
or something else you need done, and if he helps you by doing more than his regualr chores reward him with money
give him the money in his hand and let him spend it, you can advise him to save it or use it wisely but at first he should spend it,

hope this helps
and hope you understand that your CHILD does understand and can do what you ask

Meg